I believe that anybody can do with an extra dose of unshakable confidence to help us move past blocks, make decisions on a daily basis and feel better about ourselves in general.
Mais Comment? Is it possible just to take a magic dose and have confidence flow in our veins? Humm...
Many will disagree but I believe confidence is a built in mechanism we're born with and shut down bit by bit unlearn as we grow or when we experience trauma.
There are however tips and tricks that you can use to up your game a bit or a lot. And in this article I’ll explore some of those tips. You can also learn more about becoming bolder, more fierce powerful and unapologetic in my 4-week Confidence Cure Online Course.
It is my hope that you find some useful tips in this article to kick you into gear and boost your confidence now!
YOUR STATE MATTERS
Body language speaks volumes about your state. Increase your awareness whenever possible and especially in situations where you need more confidence whether it is public speaking, in a meeting, a presention, livestream or je ne sais quoi.
According to research, to hump forward when sitting can make you look insecure. So suck that tummy in towards your spine, lift up your head and square your shoulders when standing or walking for an instant boost.
GET OVER THE FEAR OF CRITICISM
One of the main fear that keeps women small is the fear of criticism. Realise once and for all that people care more about themselves than others. No one is out to get you! They have enough problems of their own not to mentions the thousand thoughts per minutes streaming through their minds. We need to stop looking at ourselves through the eyes of others and get back in touch with our own selves.
Yes, it's worth mentioning that you might have suffered criticism from parents, teachers, friends or family when growing up and that would have caused some serious damages. Yet as an adult, you have the power to redefine yourself and claim back your power.
Letting in criticism from others can have disastrous effects on your self confidence, preventing you from taking initiatives, making the most of your creativity and completely locking yourself in a self imposed cage of negativity.
So ma cherie, CHOOSE not to let criticism in if it's not constructive!
know your values
Values give meaning and purpose to our lives. They are the building blocks for a solid foundation. It's the sum total of what you stand and fight for. Having deep core values are essential to an unshakable sense of confidence because they will be infused in everything you, whether it is raising your kids, being a wife, a friend or sister and for our purpose here a kick ass business woman. Remember how you do one thing is how you do everything!
Here's a quick fun exercise I always give to my students whenever I teach at Colleges and Universities or to my private Coaching clients:
1/ List 5 people to really admire
2/ For each person write down the reasons why you admire them
3/ Look at the pattern: which values come up the most?
4/ Pick the top 5 values that most speak to you
Voila! You've got your core values (you're welcome)! Because we can't see in other people what's not already in us, we identify and resonate more with people who are like us.
Your values will determine who you hang out with, date, marry and work with so make sure your entourage, clients and prospective clients know what you stand for and your non-negotiables
Now go live confidently ever after!