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How to Play Big in Business

As President of Lillie Mae PR and Creator of the Glambitious Empowerment Network - Lillie Mae has dedicated her efforts to empowering, recognizing and supporting entrepreneurs of all facets around the country.  From London to Nigeria, she has connected with women through books, masterclasses, innovative events, to provide them with unique resources that will elevate them professionally and personally.  She's created a hub at GlamBoss.org specifically for women to secure exposure opportunities and educational tools that will help them accomplish their dreams.

In 2016 she hosted her signature Glambitious Tour in Miami, Atlanta, Charlotte and Washington DC.  She also honored a number of top female influencers including Lisa Nicole Cloud and Saptosa Foster, as well as presented the first annual Glambitious Business Grant to a deserving entrepreneur.  Her Public Relations efforts have extended nationally for client placements including USA Today, BET Networks, Madame Noire, The Tom Joyner Morning Show & Yahoo News.  For her empowerment work, Lillie Mae herself has been featured on Black Enterprise, Rolling Out, The Examiner, Uptown Magazine, Kontrol Magazine and the front cover of BE Magazine. 

STOP PLAYING SMALL | Interview Laura Bartlett

Laura Bartlett is the Founder and Editor of House of Coco magazine, one of the largest travel magazines in the UK.

Laura has overcome rejection on Dragons Den, bankruptcy and has picked herself up from being at the bottom and created a highly popular and inspiring magazine, along with picking up awards and accolades along the way. The magazine now retails in many stores in London such as Selfridges, Harrods, WHSmith and is available in the App Store.

Life of Laura one month ago was just a small idea with huge potential. As someone who travels the world frequently, visiting exciting and wonderful places, Laura now wants to take her subscribers on the journey of not only her business side of life and what it's like to be a #Girlboss, but also her travels around the world

Life of Laura has partnered with Land Rover, the official car partner for this series.

If you would like to follow the Life of Laura on other social media platforms here are the links: 
Snapchat - @laurabartlett87
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For business enquiries: laura@houseofcoco.net

STOP PLAYING SMALL | Interview with Camilla Kristiansen

We continue this series with the gorgeous and successful Mentor, Speaker and Stylist Camilla Kristiansen from http://camillakristiansen.com she shares with us what it took to leave her 9 to 5 and go all in in her business and the defining moment she decided to step up her game. Head over to her website and grab your free gift!

Listen, this interview series is the tip of the iceberg in how I really want to help you step up your game. On the 1st of May we kick off the Shameless Visibility Free Challenge and this is for you if you're sick and tired of playing small and you're ready to step it up and go all in!

STOP PLAYING SMALL | Interview Desiree Stafford

Desiree Stafford shows high achieving coaches, experts, and spiritual entrepreneurs how to consistently attract "YES on the spot" clients WITHOUT burn out.

She took her business from struggling to success when she collapsed her YEARLY income into 90 DAYS by adopting a QUANTUM leap mindset, DEFYING "cookie cutter" marketing strategies.

Grab her free training on desireestafford.com/masterclass

My Personal Love Affaire With Confidence: The Story Of An African Pageant Princess.

This might be the most uncomfortable blog post of my social life (LOL) but I'm not fitting in the comfort box anymore!
Memories of my childhood in Africa have been flooding my mind for the past week revealing to me why I do what I do. That's what happens when you mess up with hypnotherapy ha!


The little girl is not me but since I have no pictures to illustrate my story, I used this gorgeous princess.
Up to the age of 9, I was a little pageant princess in Africa. The women in my neighbourhood used to organise competitions where they would have us dressed in traditional outfits, do our hair, teach us how to walk down a catwalk, strike a pause...


It all happened in the streets because there was no catwalk as such, we had to walk down a path drawn on the ground with a stick.
The winner would be the one who walked down the catwalk the best and really worked it on that catwalk. 


People would clap hands as we walked down as if to give a beat to our steps.
I loved it so much, the best memories of my life!
There was no prize for the winner except for a delicious meal cooked by the mamas and I can see myself eating a lot of times, so I'm not making this up when I say I used to win those little competitions. Hahaha still love my food!
We were taught to walk with our heads high, be proud, be the centre of attention for that short period of time and celebrated by our community. So I grew up with a lot of confidence and self-esteem.


At 9 years old, my dad moved us to France where I grew up until I moved to London 10 years ago!
The shock of my life!!!
Bye bye sunny Africa, hello freezing Europe!LOL
Very quickly, I had to adapt to a new school, new culture, French was not new so there was no language barrier...but it all happened very fast.
Still, the little princess was still there, moving differently, dressing differently, confident as Heaven!


Until they started telling her that it was not ok.
My teenage years were tough, I did not have many girl friends.
I started hearing things like: "who does she think she is", "she is so full of herself", "she is so proud", "she doesn't mix with anybody"
(They were right, I've always been very cautious with who I let in my entourage and those I let in are still my friends today <3)


Little by little I started walking with my head down, I didn't want to have any eyes on me or be the centre of attention or be talked about behind my back, I became shy and very quiet and just blended in.
But somehow, even in my silence, I always stood out. God knows why.
I believe I have a strong presence and no matter how much I try to hide it, I can never burry it.


I don't care if I come across as boasting, I'm really not!
You've got to know your strengths and I'm very aware of mine but just kept them to myself because of that fear of being seen as being too much.
I heard those same criticism in my adult years, some people would call me narcissistic, others say I was too proud, others yet that I was too posh, others too intelligent??!! 


And I believed them, I took in the criticism and boxed myself in a safe cocoon...but the cocoon has expired!!!!


I want to apologize for not showing you the real me, you've just seen glimpses of me so far but I'm about to go unapologetic on ya'! With love as MJ would sa
The fact that I'm a Style Coach today and have been teaching Personal Branding (bet you didn't know that?) is not a chance, I was born for this shizzle and excel at it! I've just been playing safe.

 ;.)
I'm used to being in the spotlight and I must say, I love it! Not ashamed! And I need to feel comfortable being in the spotlight because I have a Divine purpose to fulfil. It's not about me, it's about you! About all that I can gift you with my presence and my love!

How To Build Unshakable Confidence: 3 Essential Tips To Live Confidently Ever After!

I believe that anybody can do with an extra dose of unshakable confidence to help us move past blocks, make decisions on a daily basis and feel better about ourselves in general. 

Mais Comment? Is it possible just to take a magic dose and have confidence flow in our veins? Humm...

Many will disagree but I believe confidence is a built in mechanism we're born with and shut down bit by bit unlearn as we grow or when we experience trauma.

There are however tips and tricks that you can use to up your game a bit or a lot. And in this article I’ll explore some of those tips. You can also learn more about becoming bolder, more fierce powerful and unapologetic in my 4-week Confidence Cure Online Course.

It is my hope that you find some useful tips in this article to kick you into gear and boost your confidence now!

 

Walk like you have three men walking behind you.
— Oscar De La Renta
 Canvas credit of Joss &amp; Main (jossandmaine.com)

Canvas credit of Joss & Main (jossandmaine.com)

YOUR STATE MATTERS

Body language speaks volumes about your state. Increase your awareness whenever  possible and especially in situations where you need more confidence whether it is public speaking, in a meeting, a presention, livestream or je ne sais quoi.

According to research, to hump forward when sitting can make you look insecure. So suck that tummy in towards your spine, lift up your head and square your shoulders when standing or walking for an instant boost.

I don’t need your approval darling, that’s for insecure people.

GET OVER THE FEAR OF CRITICISM

One of the main fear that keeps women small is the fear of criticism. Realise once and for all that people care more about themselves than others. No one is out to get you! They have enough problems of their own not to mentions the thousand thoughts per minutes streaming through their minds. We need to stop looking at ourselves through the eyes of others and get back in touch with our own selves.

Yes, it's worth mentioning that you might have suffered criticism from parents, teachers, friends or family when growing up and that would have caused some serious damages. Yet as an adult, you have the power to redefine yourself and claim back your power.

Letting in criticism from others can have disastrous effects on your self confidence, preventing you from taking initiatives, making the most of your creativity and completely  locking yourself in a self imposed cage of negativity.

So ma cherie, CHOOSE not to let criticism in if it's not constructive!

The woman who doesn’t require validation from anyone is the most feared individual on the planet.
— Mohadesa Najumi

know your values

Values give meaning and purpose to our lives. They are the building blocks for a solid foundation. It's the sum total of what you stand and fight for. Having deep core values are essential to an unshakable sense of confidence because they will be infused in everything you, whether it is raising your kids, being a wife, a friend or sister and for our purpose here a kick ass business woman. Remember how you do one thing is how you do everything!

Here's a quick fun exercise I always give to my students whenever I teach at Colleges and Universities or to my private Coaching clients:

1/ List 5 people to really admire

2/ For each person write down the reasons why you admire them

3/ Look at the pattern: which values come up the most?

4/ Pick the top 5 values that most speak to you

Voila! You've got your core values (you're welcome)! Because we can't see in other people what's not already in us, we identify and resonate more with people who are like us.

Your values will determine who you hang out with, date, marry and work with so make sure your entourage, clients and prospective clients know what you stand for and your non-negotiables 

Now go live confidently ever after!

Top 5 Personal Branding tips for Women Entrepreneurs!

As women entrepreneur, we spend a great deal of time perfecting our businesses' brands. However, as a Personal Brand Stylist, I've realised that many often pay less attention to the development of their personal brands. As the face of you company, thus your brand, crafting a personal brand aligned to your business's can  be a pivotal factor in helping you grow the confidence and grit to self promote and stand out!

Your personal brand is a combination of your identity, beliefs, passion, gifts and your purpose! It starts with you and ends in the hearts and minds of the people you're meant to serve. Jeff Bezos, CEO of Amazon said that: personal brand is what others say about you when you're not in the room."

So how do you get others to talk about you and to talk about you in a way that reflects your personal brand? How do you cut through the noise and get others to stop and notice you? How do you get them to like, trust and ultimately invest their attention, respect and money in you?

The ones who stand out the most are the ones that get picked and followed. I recently heard that: people who are scared to be themselves will work for those who are not afraid of being themselves." So without further ado

will the real you please stand out?

Have you ever wondered how did others get the deals, attract their ideal clients and charged the value of their services? How do some people stand out and others just remain plain Jane? You're pretty aware that if others are doing it you can to right? In fact, if you look closely, they are better or smatter than you! They just believe they are and that allows them to cut through the noise of:

  • Social Media
  • Online Channels
  • All the people looking to attract the same clientele as you

Through all this noise, how can you sound and look different? Your ultimate goal being to leave an imprint even as small as a mustard seed in the hearts and minds of the people that matter the most to you and you are meant to serve. The people you want to like, trust and ultimately believe and invest in you.

There a three things you want people to invest in you:

  • Their attention: how do you get them to stop and notice the value of your services.
  • Their respect
  • Their moolah

Remember: the ones who stand out the most are the ones that get picked and followed

do What your soul fancies?

 Baroness Mone of Mayfair OBE

Baroness Mone of Mayfair OBE

Besides from being on of the most sought after public speakers in the world, Michelle is passionate about giving back and over the years, she has partnered with a variety of charities raising substantial amounts of money for some of the most important charities on the planet. Currently, Michelle allocates a portion of her yearly schedule to charitable appearances and fundraisers. Source: michellemone.com

She mentors and supports young people in Scotland as part of her role as a director on the Board of Directors for The Princes Scottish Youth Business Trust. She's also been a long term supporter of  charities such as Caudwell Children and Breast Cancer UK.

What do you do best or what are you passionate about that you can add to your personal brand to make you stand out and leverage your uniqueness?

What is it about you that people can't find anywhere else or duplicate? Is it your character? Your values? Your competence? Your experience?

Only you have been through what you've been through and how you overcame it is your competence. You've graduated from set backs and knock downs; that qualifies you to be an expert in your chosen field.

Your presence and personality, the way you dress are unique to yourself. Make sure they're congruent with your values and mission statement.

dip you toe in the ocean

 Dip your toe in the ocean

Dip your toe in the ocean

The Universe is large and this is an understatement in itself, What's available to us is grander than what we could ever imagine. However, we're so afraid to claim more than the tiny little space we occupy.

We settle for less.

We don't want to charge too much.

We don't want to attract too much attention.

We definitely don't want to sound loud, be seen as too much or showing off.

But wait! Those who win at this game called life are the ones who are not afraid to claim and occupy more space than others because actually, there's enough space for everybody. Nobody can ever overshadow you unless you let them.

If you really are serious about making a bigger impact, you've got to dip your toe in the ocean of abundance and possibility. Forget the river.

Je t'aime moi non plus aka be likeable

 

The "L" factor is a crucial element in your personal brand. You've heard that people buy from people they like, know and trust. No matter how many criticism Michelle and Barack Obama may have received during the presidency no-one seems to actually dislike her or them.

Why? They've not only open the White House's door to celebrities, they've opened their door to us, the people, even if you're not american you can't deny the proximity Michelle and her husband have brought between them and the people.

They've shown us that they are just like anybody and treat others in the same way I presume they would love to be treated.

Michelle showed the world that she is a mom raising two young teenagers. She showed that she genuinly cares about the things she discusses and causes she defends. Women can relate to her and her warmth passes through the tv-screens into the living rooms of people all over the world.

We don’t always judge people on their performance, instead, we judge performance based on how much we “like” someone!”

— MarMark McCormack

Press the refresh button

 Victoria Beckham Style Evolution

Victoria Beckham Style Evolution

Your persona, the character you choose to play in the drama of life is an evolving persona. So many of us spend day and day out being the same consequently experiencing the same things over and over.

We grow through experiences so it's vital to press the refresh button every now and then and reinvent yourself so your personal brand can still capture the attention of your ideal clients and be counted!

Keep in mind that no matter how much your brand evolves and you reinvent your persona, your end goal or Soul mission doesn't change, who you are at your core never changes! A chameleon adapts to its environment and changes colours but it stays a chameleon!

Sometimes it takes very little. Just a different hair cut can bring a massive change to your facial features and boost your confidence. So how can you reinvent yourself today?

 

I want to hel yup create a market where you lead and pave the way for other women to serve better and in a bigger way. To help you do that, I've created a FREE training series "How To Kiss Your Competition Goodbye So You Can Win The Hearts & Minds of your  ideal clients".

 

Why Saying NO Can BE A LIFE SAVER!

Saying No is such a biggie for so many people and I certainly know all too well about that. It requires courage, trust in self and willingness to change and stand your ground.

Yes! Saying No can literally change our lives. Here's why.

  • It's The Opposite of How we've been functioning

Saying no for most of us, is contrary to what we would normally do. Generally speaking, we've been conditioned and raised to be people pleasers and do what was was or is required of us so we could get validation, approval or receive love from either one of our parents or the people who matter to us the most when we were growing up.

Once this behaviour is set, it becomes part of our Karma or Karmic wheel. As a people pleaser or someone who needs approval in order to feel they matter, saying no can be quite a challenge and can cause feelings of guilt and shame.

However, if we're aware of our people pleasing tendencies, need for approval and have difficulties saying no, we can totally overcome that, create new habits and release the approval seeking energy that's blocking us from moving forward

  • Practicing The Feeling of Saying No

So stop for a minute and imagine how it would feel to actually say no when you would normally say yes. Play this scenario especially with friends and loved ones. Don't worry about how they would react or feel, right now focus on just experiencing the feeling of saying no.

In most cases, at first the feelings of guilt and shame will manifest themselves and we'll feel like we're a bad person for having said no. We've been so used to seeing ourself as good only when we did what was expected of us to keep others happy and this is very new and foreign to us.

Now what we need to do is allowing yourself to feel guilt and shame of saying no and be ok with it. We must get used to the feeling. Yes, it will be challenging  but if we're determined to stop letting others take advantage and manipulate us, if we really want to step into our personal power and be the best version of ourselves, we've got to ride this wave!

It's not just about saying no to others, it's more about saying yes to ourselves and loving ourselves a little bit more.

Although self love can seem like a natural thing to do for oneself, few of us indulge in this practice and it can feel quite awkward  at first and sometimes we'll feel selfish for doing so. But be committed and keep practicing saying no until the feeling of self love becomes natural and overpowers the feelings of shame and guilt.

When we're ready, we'll let go of the need of approval which in the end will never bring us the feeling of love we're so longing for.

  • Get Ready To Face Criticism

On  of the quickest ways to break habits, change our beliefs and create a breakthrough is to do the opposite of what we're used to do. We have to be willing to accept the challenge and honour our feelings in the process. Friends and family are going to be the first ones to notice the new you and question it.

They are so used to the old version and our new found power  will scare the hell out of them so be ready to face criticism.

We'll know we're on the right track when suddenly people start asking us if we're ok and telling us that we've changed. When this happens, just smile inside and know that you're on the right track.

Whenever we claim back our personal power, we'll expose others fears and it will look like everyone is against us but we must keep loving ourselves and stand our ground. We're growing into who we're called to be and some thing just can't go with us as we rise to higher planes of awareness.

Saying No is healthy and necessary to our growth!