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How To Build Unshakable Confidence: 3 Essential Tips To Live Confidently Ever After!

I believe that anybody can do with an extra dose of unshakable confidence to help us move past blocks, make decisions on a daily basis and feel better about ourselves in general. 

Mais Comment? Is it possible just to take a magic dose and have confidence flow in our veins? Humm...

Many will disagree but I believe confidence is a built in mechanism we're born with and shut down bit by bit unlearn as we grow or when we experience trauma.

There are however tips and tricks that you can use to up your game a bit or a lot. And in this article I’ll explore some of those tips. You can also learn more about becoming bolder, more fierce powerful and unapologetic in my 4-week Confidence Cure Online Course.

It is my hope that you find some useful tips in this article to kick you into gear and boost your confidence now!

 

Walk like you have three men walking behind you.
— Oscar De La Renta
Canvas credit of Joss & Main (jossandmaine.com)

Canvas credit of Joss & Main (jossandmaine.com)

YOUR STATE MATTERS

Body language speaks volumes about your state. Increase your awareness whenever  possible and especially in situations where you need more confidence whether it is public speaking, in a meeting, a presention, livestream or je ne sais quoi.

According to research, to hump forward when sitting can make you look insecure. So suck that tummy in towards your spine, lift up your head and square your shoulders when standing or walking for an instant boost.

I don’t need your approval darling, that’s for insecure people.

GET OVER THE FEAR OF CRITICISM

One of the main fear that keeps women small is the fear of criticism. Realise once and for all that people care more about themselves than others. No one is out to get you! They have enough problems of their own not to mentions the thousand thoughts per minutes streaming through their minds. We need to stop looking at ourselves through the eyes of others and get back in touch with our own selves.

Yes, it's worth mentioning that you might have suffered criticism from parents, teachers, friends or family when growing up and that would have caused some serious damages. Yet as an adult, you have the power to redefine yourself and claim back your power.

Letting in criticism from others can have disastrous effects on your self confidence, preventing you from taking initiatives, making the most of your creativity and completely  locking yourself in a self imposed cage of negativity.

So ma cherie, CHOOSE not to let criticism in if it's not constructive!

The woman who doesn’t require validation from anyone is the most feared individual on the planet.
— Mohadesa Najumi

know your values

Values give meaning and purpose to our lives. They are the building blocks for a solid foundation. It's the sum total of what you stand and fight for. Having deep core values are essential to an unshakable sense of confidence because they will be infused in everything you, whether it is raising your kids, being a wife, a friend or sister and for our purpose here a kick ass business woman. Remember how you do one thing is how you do everything!

Here's a quick fun exercise I always give to my students whenever I teach at Colleges and Universities or to my private Coaching clients:

1/ List 5 people to really admire

2/ For each person write down the reasons why you admire them

3/ Look at the pattern: which values come up the most?

4/ Pick the top 5 values that most speak to you

Voila! You've got your core values (you're welcome)! Because we can't see in other people what's not already in us, we identify and resonate more with people who are like us.

Your values will determine who you hang out with, date, marry and work with so make sure your entourage, clients and prospective clients know what you stand for and your non-negotiables 

Now go live confidently ever after!

Life Lessons From Monaco!

 

I just came back from a very relaxing and wonderful family holiday in the French Riviera and one of the places I really wanted to see and visit was the Principality of Monaco and Monte Carlo.

If you don’t know Monaco, it’s situated on the French Mediterranean Coast very close to the Italian border.

It's famous for It’s Royal family

Grace Kelly and Prince Rainier III

Grace Kelly and Prince Rainier III

Monaco is famous for it’s Formula 1 circuit

The line up of super expensive yachts, where celebrities and other wealthy people flock and have private parties.

It’s Casino and display of beautiful cars

While we were mingling with the tourists and admiring the beauty of the city and the lifestyle of the “rich and fabulous”, I started reflecting on the whole scene that I was at the same time participating in and witnessing.

So here are my 2 takeaways from Monaco:

1/ 98% observing the 2%

What struck me was that 98% of the people I was surrounded by including myself were only observers! We came to observe the wealthy display their lavish lifestyles. 

I realised that I did not want to be an observer and never have been. Eeek! Most of the 98% will take pictures and go back to their normal lives and keep living life as observers watching others on TV, scrolling down Social Media envying those who make things happen and create epic lives!

Don’t get me wrong. I was not enviousof the lavish lifestyle, the expensive cars or the yachts. What I saw was the possibility. Again, everything comes down to perception.

I saw the possibility of creating a life that allows you to live life the way you want, own a yacht if you want to, spend time in the most luxurious places and be surrounded by likeminded people and what not!

The most important thing for me is self actualisation and being the grandest version of yourself you can be and if your journey takes you on a yacht, then embrace it and enjoy the ride!!

2/ The rich are getting richer and the poor are getting poorer? 

I’m all about mindset so I’ll take any opportunity I have to tie my experiences with my teachings to serve you better and help you breakthrough. The reason why I say the rich are getting richer is because on a larger scale, poor people (the observers) are thinking like poor people. 

So no wonder why “they” keep experiencing shortage, lack and poverty. By the poor, of course, I do not mean people living in under developed countries and lacking of the bare necessities to survive. 

I want you to stop being an observer and start creating your life, consciously and on purpose no matter what your idea of a good life is. If it’s owning a farm and raising chicken, so be it!

We need to stop being victims of our circumstances and being spoon fed what we need to be, do, think and have. And here’s the problem with being spoon fed, you only get what’s on the spoon!

Stop thinking that some people are lucky and some are just doomed or unfortunate. Opportunity is knocking on everybody’s door everyday all day;  but some people are deaf and others are too scared to open the door.

You, as much as anybody else are creating your life through your thoughts, words and most importantly feelings. You can read more about how your emotions affect your experience here

And because I could not leave Monaco without having a bite, me and my Beau treated ourselves to a super delicious and lavish night out!

Cheers to your crazy Success!

 

 

13 Qualities you need to become Unstoppable!

What's stopping you?

Pause for a moment and ask yourself: "What's stopping me? "

Is you mind ready to take you where your success is? Mental dominance and a strong mindset will make you unstoppable. So here are 13 qualities you must cultivate to become an unstoppable Badass!

  1. Keep pushing yourself harder and don't sit on your achievements. Complacency is your enemy!
  2. Celebrate your achievements but keep craving more! This doesn't mean that you're not content. You just know that you can always be more!
  3. Failure doesn't matter because there's more than one way to get what you want!
  4. Thrive on pressure! Get used to it!
  5. You'd rather be feared than liked! The most magnetic people have this quality about them!
  6. Even if the work pisses you off, you do it because you're addicted to the result you get!
  7. Make decisions! Be firm and stand by them!
  8. Be the one everybody is reaching out to to solve their problems! Of course you get paid for it!
  9. Know who you are at your core without the shadow of a doubt! And every time you show up she shows up!
  10. Have a close circle of people you can trust!
  11. Don't behave! Be like that little kid who refused to be told what to do!
  12. Find your flow, get into your vortex of genius and shut the door!
  13. Be bold, daring and fearless!
  14. This is a bonus: join my tribe of unstoppable

To achieve mastery, you have to achieve clarity. For you to achieve clarity, you need an influence outside of yourself. It's very hard for us to see ourselves in our greatest light without the perception of another. You need someone who has broken through the walls you've build around yourself to keep you safe and comfortable.

That's my Soul's calling. I'm here to challenge you, your opinions, thoughts and beliefs about yourself so you can express more of your inner power and be all you've been called to be and do!

If you're committed not to play anything less than a World Class game, join my tribe now and subscribe to my email tribe so you can receive more of this goodness!

To your crazy success!

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