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STOP PLAYING SMALL | Interview with Camilla Kristiansen

We continue this series with the gorgeous and successful Mentor, Speaker and Stylist Camilla Kristiansen from http://camillakristiansen.com she shares with us what it took to leave her 9 to 5 and go all in in her business and the defining moment she decided to step up her game. Head over to her website and grab your free gift!

Listen, this interview series is the tip of the iceberg in how I really want to help you step up your game. On the 1st of May we kick off the Shameless Visibility Free Challenge and this is for you if you're sick and tired of playing small and you're ready to step it up and go all in!

STOP PLAYING SMALL | Interview Desiree Stafford

Desiree Stafford shows high achieving coaches, experts, and spiritual entrepreneurs how to consistently attract "YES on the spot" clients WITHOUT burn out.

She took her business from struggling to success when she collapsed her YEARLY income into 90 DAYS by adopting a QUANTUM leap mindset, DEFYING "cookie cutter" marketing strategies.

Grab her free training on desireestafford.com/masterclass

STOP PLAYING SMALL | Interview Tanja Seetzen

Tanja believes that: Style is so much more: It‘s your smile, your attitude, your personality, your brand, your business. Everything belongs to your own personal style as it is YOU and what you are doing it. No one is like you! And this is what you can and should show to the world – to your clients – to be seen as you want to be seen.

You can find here:

https://tanjaseetzen.com/about/

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/tanjaseetzenofficial

STOP PLAYING SMALL | Interview Ronne B

My Guest for this episode of The Haut De Game Interview series is multiple 7 figures entrepreneur Ronne B from http://ronneb.com

Ronne Brown is a wife, mother, coach, author, speaker, entrepreneur and over comer. She has influenced thousands of entrepreneurs by teaching them to achieve success on their own terms. Hailing from Washington, D.C., Brown inspires others to live and dream big. Ronne worked hard to change the trajectory of her life. 

Ronne worked hard to change the trajectory of her life. She went from being a statistic to a success story. She worked long hours as a janitor while pregnant, but she didn’t allow that obstacle to make her lose sight of her purpose. Even though the odds were stacked against her, she was determined not to allow her past circumstances to stop her from achieving her goals. After being laid off from her job with only an unemployment check as her income, and three children to take care of, she knew she had to make a change. She was determined to face her fears, and step into her purpose. The lessons she learned on her journey as a teen mom gave her the courage to launch several business ventures.

 

In 2009, she founded High Heels High Goals, an exclusive, non-profit organization that teaches women how to be successful entrepreneurs and empowers women to reach their goals. Because Ronne has a heart for women, on any given day you can find her pouring into the lives of other women by speaking positive words, sowing seeds to assist with start-up costs in a new business venture, or coaching a woman to success.

In 2014, Ronne launched The Millionaire’s Academy, where she teaches people all over the world how to leverage the direct sales industry and earn income from home. Through this program, she has helped men and women create 6-figure incomes, become debt free, and live life on their own terms. Her vision is to empower others to succeed in business, and inspire people to leave a legacy for generations to come. She coaches entrepreneurs by using the strategies and methods she used to grow her own business and develop her as a leader. She believes, “Success is no accident, if you want to achieve amazing things and build a successful business, you have to do it on purpose for a purpose.”

Listen to her giving us a wealth of insight,  sharing her leadership wisdom and best success advice.

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Why Saying NO Can BE A LIFE SAVER!

Saying No is such a biggie for so many people and I certainly know all too well about that. It requires courage, trust in self and willingness to change and stand your ground.

Yes! Saying No can literally change our lives. Here's why.

  • It's The Opposite of How we've been functioning

Saying no for most of us, is contrary to what we would normally do. Generally speaking, we've been conditioned and raised to be people pleasers and do what was was or is required of us so we could get validation, approval or receive love from either one of our parents or the people who matter to us the most when we were growing up.

Once this behaviour is set, it becomes part of our Karma or Karmic wheel. As a people pleaser or someone who needs approval in order to feel they matter, saying no can be quite a challenge and can cause feelings of guilt and shame.

However, if we're aware of our people pleasing tendencies, need for approval and have difficulties saying no, we can totally overcome that, create new habits and release the approval seeking energy that's blocking us from moving forward

  • Practicing The Feeling of Saying No

So stop for a minute and imagine how it would feel to actually say no when you would normally say yes. Play this scenario especially with friends and loved ones. Don't worry about how they would react or feel, right now focus on just experiencing the feeling of saying no.

In most cases, at first the feelings of guilt and shame will manifest themselves and we'll feel like we're a bad person for having said no. We've been so used to seeing ourself as good only when we did what was expected of us to keep others happy and this is very new and foreign to us.

Now what we need to do is allowing yourself to feel guilt and shame of saying no and be ok with it. We must get used to the feeling. Yes, it will be challenging  but if we're determined to stop letting others take advantage and manipulate us, if we really want to step into our personal power and be the best version of ourselves, we've got to ride this wave!

It's not just about saying no to others, it's more about saying yes to ourselves and loving ourselves a little bit more.

Although self love can seem like a natural thing to do for oneself, few of us indulge in this practice and it can feel quite awkward  at first and sometimes we'll feel selfish for doing so. But be committed and keep practicing saying no until the feeling of self love becomes natural and overpowers the feelings of shame and guilt.

When we're ready, we'll let go of the need of approval which in the end will never bring us the feeling of love we're so longing for.

  • Get Ready To Face Criticism

On  of the quickest ways to break habits, change our beliefs and create a breakthrough is to do the opposite of what we're used to do. We have to be willing to accept the challenge and honour our feelings in the process. Friends and family are going to be the first ones to notice the new you and question it.

They are so used to the old version and our new found power  will scare the hell out of them so be ready to face criticism.

We'll know we're on the right track when suddenly people start asking us if we're ok and telling us that we've changed. When this happens, just smile inside and know that you're on the right track.

Whenever we claim back our personal power, we'll expose others fears and it will look like everyone is against us but we must keep loving ourselves and stand our ground. We're growing into who we're called to be and some thing just can't go with us as we rise to higher planes of awareness.

Saying No is healthy and necessary to our growth!

13 Qualities you need to become Unstoppable!

What's stopping you?

Pause for a moment and ask yourself: "What's stopping me? "

Is you mind ready to take you where your success is? Mental dominance and a strong mindset will make you unstoppable. So here are 13 qualities you must cultivate to become an unstoppable Badass!

  1. Keep pushing yourself harder and don't sit on your achievements. Complacency is your enemy!
  2. Celebrate your achievements but keep craving more! This doesn't mean that you're not content. You just know that you can always be more!
  3. Failure doesn't matter because there's more than one way to get what you want!
  4. Thrive on pressure! Get used to it!
  5. You'd rather be feared than liked! The most magnetic people have this quality about them!
  6. Even if the work pisses you off, you do it because you're addicted to the result you get!
  7. Make decisions! Be firm and stand by them!
  8. Be the one everybody is reaching out to to solve their problems! Of course you get paid for it!
  9. Know who you are at your core without the shadow of a doubt! And every time you show up she shows up!
  10. Have a close circle of people you can trust!
  11. Don't behave! Be like that little kid who refused to be told what to do!
  12. Find your flow, get into your vortex of genius and shut the door!
  13. Be bold, daring and fearless!
  14. This is a bonus: join my tribe of unstoppable

To achieve mastery, you have to achieve clarity. For you to achieve clarity, you need an influence outside of yourself. It's very hard for us to see ourselves in our greatest light without the perception of another. You need someone who has broken through the walls you've build around yourself to keep you safe and comfortable.

That's my Soul's calling. I'm here to challenge you, your opinions, thoughts and beliefs about yourself so you can express more of your inner power and be all you've been called to be and do!

If you're committed not to play anything less than a World Class game, join my tribe now and subscribe to my email tribe so you can receive more of this goodness!

To your crazy success!

Conscious vs Unconscious mind: The Battle of the Sexes or The Art of making your dreams reality!

Manifestation is an Art! An Art confined in the depth of your Consciousness. However it is and has always been available to you through your Conscious and Unconscious minds. I like using the term "battle of the sexes" because the whole process is likened to the eternal dance between the Male and Female.

The Law of Consciousness

The world and everything around it is the projection of your Consciousness and on a global plane, the projection of humanity's Consciousness! Yes, we're pretty much in this shizzle together! Ha!

That being said, for your sanity, I'm going to keep this intimate and only speak to you my love because I really want you to get this.

The secret of creation and manifestation is contained within your Consciousness, within you! So you MUST get familiar with the Law of Consciousness and learn how to make it work for you so that you can manifest your deepest desires and turn water into wine!

What you see with your physical eyes in NOT the reality, it's the projection of your state of mind. The only reality is Consciousness and what happens inside of it!

Ok, to make it simple, picture Consciousness as a river or a stream that at some point splits into two parts: Conscious and Unconscious!

 

For you to be able to apply this Law efficiently, you must understand the relationship between the two.

The Formula:

You conceive an idea in your Conscious mind, your deepest burning desire and then impress it into your Subconscious (I will deal with the how in a moment) so it accepts it as being real. Knowing what you really want is crucial here! Your Subconscious then will nurture it and give it shape & form and ultimately give birth to your idea in the physical, in your life.

Understand that your Subconscious does not originates the ideas, it will accept EVERYTHING your Conscious mind will feed into it. Remember that it's impersonal so whether your dreaming, pretending, faking it, it doesn't care!

So it's through your power to imagine and feel, your freedom of choice  to select your ideas, your craziest and wildest dreams and the thoughts that you'll entertain that you literally have control and dominion over the manifestation process!

How do you impress your Subconscious?

Through your ideas and most importantly, your FEELINGS!

The HOW of creation is buried deep within your Subconscious, the female aspect of Consciousness or the Womb of creation as it also referred to! See how you're powerful woman?

It transcends reason so NEVER worry about how what you want is going to come to you, you'll just postpone your manifestation!

Just based on the feelings that you attach to your desires good or bad, the Subconscious will proceed to give it shape and form in the visible! Is it that simple? Pretty much so why make it complicated?

IDEA >FEELING>ACTION

If you can't feel your dreams, desires as though they were already manifested, it will be really hard for you to manifest them and for your Subconscious to accept them.

You MUST feel it ‘til you make it!
— www.genevievemuwana.com

Feeling is the only medium through which your ideas, ideals and desires are conveyed to your Subconscious. So your biggest part is to control your feelings or you'll impress your Subconscious with he stuff that you don't want.

By control I don't mean that you have to suppress your feelings but rather discipline yourself to only feel the good things, only feel in the goodness and sweetness of what you want to experience, see and feel in your life. The things that make you happy!

Avoid criticism or entertaining negative thoughts, speaking negatively of yourself...because if you do, you're basically telling your Subconscious what to bring into your experience.

Every feeling leaves a foot print or makes a subconscious impression and unless you counteract it by a more powerful one, you'll manifest it! That's why so many people experience things they don't want and think that life is unfair or that they're just victims of their circumstances; when in reality, they've felt everything into their reality!

 

The dominant of two feelings is always the one expressed!

You want to make more money but deep down inside your feeling is that you never have enough. If your fear is stronger than your desire to manifest more money, you'll experience shortage.

This is because what you feel you are today will always have more impact than what you feel you would be like in the future. So your desire to manifest  more money MUST be felt as if it had already happened rather than far off in the future. Hence why NOW is always the coolest place to be either in your physical reality or in your dreams!

If you want to create Miracles, you must feel the reality of your desires, the reality of what you want to be, do and have and living your life now acting on that conviction.

 

For this reason I tell you, whatever you pray and ask for, believe that you have received it, and it will be yours.
— Mark 11:24

If you want to change your life and your circumstances, you have to not only think differently, you must FEEL differently.

Change your feelings, change your destiny!

To wrap it up:

  • Your Subconscious never alters your ideas or desires. It will always out picture what you've impressed on it through your Conscious mind.
  • It is impersonal and doesn't care whether what you feel is true, faked, right or wrong.
  • Whatever your mind conceives and your heart feels, you can achieve because your Subconscious by Law must make it manifest.
  • Your feelings create your experiences.
  • Your Subconscious accepts your feelings as facts and will immediately get to work and look for ways to bring them in your experience.
  • You must feel it 'til you make it and act, think & behave as if it was already manifested.
  • How your ideas and desires will manifest is beyond reason and none of your business!

If you have the desire to be do or have something, that desire is the proof that you have the power to do it!

Remember: Desire is Divine Power seeking expression!

To achieve mastery, you have to achieve clarity. For you to achieve clarity, you need an influence outside of yourself. It's very hard for us to see ourselves in our greatest light without the perception of another. You need someone who has broken through the walls you've build around yourself to keep you safe and comfortable.

That's my Soul's calling. I'm here to challenge you, your opinions, thoughts and beliefs about yourself so you can express more of your inner power and be all you've been called to be and do!

If you're committed not to play anything less than a World Class game, join my tribe now and subscribe to my email tribe so you can receive more of this goodness!

To your crazy success!

 

The One Thing No Woman should ever sacrifice is her Voice

I saw a video recently and it reminded me how a few year ago I gave away my voice as a woman and thus lost my Personal Power. This is short window into my personal life but hey sometimes you have to give away a bit of your story to inspire others.

I am an african born and raised woman and in my culture, when a woman is going through a hard time, she is expected to be strong and just deal with it.

A few years ago, I was in a very difficult and painful relationship. I had just become a young mother and was just trying to get back on my feet and deal with this brand new situation. That relationship did not turn out the way my heart desired and I stayed silent through it all. I let other people decide for me.

I let other people decide my fate. I was told things like " you are a woman", "be strong" "our mothers have been through this and they stood strong" "this is how it is supposed to be" "be patient" "don't worry he will change" blah blah blah...

Somehow in the mist of all this drama, I totally lost my self-esteem, self-worth and self-confident. I could barely recognise myself. I gave away my voice and trusted other people's voice to be more powerful than mine and it led me to misery!

Why I am telling you this?

The reason being is that if you are blessed with a voice, YOU OUGHT TO USE IT! You don't need permission, you don't need to deserve it, you don't need to wait for someone to create a platform for you to raise your voice, you CREATE the platform.

As women entrepreneurs, specifically when starting out, you look around and shrink because of lack of experience, lack of visibility among other reasons.

You look at what other people are doing and just stay small in your corner, sacrificing your voice. But if you do not speak up who will hear you? If you do not show up who no will see you?

Most of it is tied to low self-worth or low self-esteem and fear of course!

I guarantee you that when you decide to speak up, show up and get your Personal Power back, things will shift in a way that will blow your mind!

Alright that's it for now. Check below the video I mentioned earlier.